Hi, I just wanted you to know I was still around. Haven't been on the board too much lately, but wanted to check in to see how things were going.
Sounds like your wife is dragging up old stuff from the past, for which females are famous. As for how to reply, I suppose it depends on how fed up you are getting with all of this. You could ask her what the point was of telling you all of this when she has filed for D and was getting out of an unhappy life for herself. I sure wouldn't make any promises of doing better, making changes, etc. She needs to do something or get off the pot.
On the other hand, maybe she is having second thoughts and could be why you have not been served yet and this is her way of trying to talk about what she was unhappy about in the R and wants to see if anything can be fixed.
It seems to me that the ball is in your court right now as to what YOU want to do. If you feel you are doing better and want to forget going through all the BS again, then let the D go through without giving her the satisfaction of responding to her. If you want to feel that you gave it one more good ole college try, then ask her if she feels that it is worth meeting to talk about and does she think that the two of you can do it without getting into a fight. I think it is your choice at this point.
Good luck, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
