you are misunderstanding the point of goals - there is no "we". You need to set personal goals for yourself, following DB practices. You must stop trying to make this about you and W!
What are you doing to improve yourself? Set a goal. What are you doing to Get A Life? Set a goal. What are you doing to improve your R with the children? Set a goal.
Here are a couple of starter goals for you:
1:Set some goals! 2:Go one day without including W in your posts here (make sure it is a day you post) 3:Plan one activity (even a small one) with the kids. 4:Do a GAL activity (go out with friends) but where drinking does not come into play at all
Come on guy, you have about 1/2 of it - get the other half, which is focus on YOU. You cannot do ANYTHING to change W - let her see that you are someone she wants to be with, is interested in, and let her, if and when she is ready, follow you.
Think back to the days you posted the most positives - they were all after you didnt text, didnt persue, and were out being interesting just by being mysterious.
Get to work on YOU. Read DB/DR again.. and again! Read success posts here. Dig in the newcomers archives, there are a lot of good threads there. See if you can find threads by MAK_ - one of my early inspirations.
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