No. No. and No. to all of your postings above about interactions with the W.
Being cold/distant is one thing. Being there at her beck and call is totally something else.
Right now she contacts you when it's convenient for her. Well you have a life now right? Live it. You no longer have to see if she needs help or if she "wants" you to do something for her.
Stay busy. It's not a 180 because of what happened in the past. You might have been unattentive in the past, but you've shown her that you are no longer like that. It was a different place and a different time.
She wanted space. Give it to her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.