It will reveal itself when it is time and when you are ready to hear it. Hopefully, one day your xw will be open to hearing what she needs to in order for her to find her way.
I was thinking while I was driving today. I still find myself db'ing even after I am now divorced. I think I am doing my exwife an injustice.Our marriage is over,we both contributed in its demise.I still care deeply for her, she deserves better than db'ing.I just need to be her friend, to show compassion for her. I honestly don't know if I will still be around when she finally comes out of her mlc, that is in the Lords hands.I do miss her .
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Not much contact between my ex and I, maybe once a week. have not seen her in a couple of weeks. strange, . My 18yr old son is moving into his own apartment soon, it will be lonely around the house. I only have 15yr old daughter 2 weeks a month.It will save me money. STill have to decide if I will and can sell the house. Having a four bedroom house does not make a lot of sense, but It is in the Lords hands, I will keep praying for guidance.
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Hi Craig, I'm sure you do love your W. But do you ever tell her that and if so what's her reaction (annoyance perhaps?) and is she convinced that you do? Some of these WAW are hard to fathom any way you look at them or whatever you do for them they look for reasons to blame you for something or other. You are still living in hope she turns around?
One more thing ... have to bought any of the Divorce Care books they recommend by e-mail? I'm tempted to buy them all but I know I have very little time to read them.
Ex and I spent 7 hours cleaning travel trailer so we can put it up for sale. It was actually pleasant working together. My ex told me her friends and our daughter told her she had somehow lost her sense of humor. I did not say anything.
Fb, I have not told my ex that I love her for months, many months. As far a my hoping she will come out of this, Part of me does, but I need to be realistic. I believe she is slowly coming out of it now, very slowly.
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Fb, just a further note, We have not had a cross word for well over a year.This is not you normal run of the mill mlc that she is going through.But the pain is there for her none the less.She just is not acting out like alot of mlc'ers do.
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Craig, You are probably done trying to reach her, not sure about the kind of MLC but there must be some emotion working inside her - seems like low self-esteem and/or guilt over something. Sad that there are these lost souls wandering around us and we can't get through to them.
fb, I believe it is a combination of alot of things, not dealing with things in he past and not dealing with some things in our marriage. As far as reaching her, Given the correct time and place I would not hesitate.
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