I personally think you have been given some excellent advice here on how to proceed... cautiously, carefully..
I hope you have a safety plan in place for a while after he is served. While you may have a restraining order.. it's just a piece of paper & doesn't do a darn thing to really keep him away from you if he really wants to get to you. It just gives the cops something else to charge him with once he's arrested for other things. I certainly hope & pray it doesn't come to that.
Don't expect that to 'protect' you.. normal people would respect a restraining order.. given all you've posted about your H's behaviours.. I wouldn't expect him to give a flying F.. about a piece of paper.
Your safety and that of your daughter's need to have the upmost top priority.. 'explaining' to him is not in that picture.
Keep us posted as this week unwinds for you. We're here to be supportive.
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Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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