Hey MissH. I think maybe I have posted to you before? Not really sure. The ages of you, your husband, and your kids are almost identical to my family. My d is 3 1/2 and son is 8. It does seem sometimes as though they "get off" scott free, but I'm sure that's not the case. I know my h is SO confused and has no clue what he is doing with his life. He has told me that. They will suffer with deep regret for many years to come after everything crashes down. We, on the other hand, can hold our heads high, sleep with a clear mind, and enjoy our children. That means a lot more than where we live, or what we have. I know how you feel though, I have had the same thoughts. Try to focus on the positives.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
