Do you think they ever do realize one day just what they gave up when it comes to their kids?
I have had Zach with me virtually every day since the 13th of September 2006. He was 14 when his Mom left. He has not lived a day with her since, except for a couple brief visits at Christmas and once last summer.
She spent his first 14 years sharing the responsibility for washing his clothes, cooking his meals, taking care of him when he was sick, helping buy new clothes, taking him out to eat, going to the movies, etc.
Now? Nothing.
She calls him. She texts him. He's not very into the phone and just doesn't care to spend much time going back and forth with her. I know he loves her - she is his Mom.
Do you really think either of our ex's will ever feel bad about what they've given up?
I used to think so. I'm not so sure now.
I didn't like the comment that was made about these spouses having not changed but simply finally revealed for who they always were. I don't think it's true, mostly because I lived those 20+ years together. If it was all a lie or a ruse, I must be a complete mindless idiot.
But there are times that I do wonder if this wasn't being planned MUCH earlier than I ever knew.
You have taken the right road Mules. We will NEVER regret stepping up and choosing to play both Mom and Dad to our children. Yes, it is hard and there are times that it wears you out. But the positives we see in the faces of our kids FAR outweigh the temporary difficulties.
Again, it's stunning to me how far your wife has gone.
You, on the other hand, are being the man that your boys will never forget.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
