I am a starved husband. I have tried just about everything to get my wife to help me out and get an understanding to this. The main problem I have with her is she is extreemly lazy and refuses to do anything around the house with out being asked various times this includes all house hold chores. I have a problem with letting my house become filthy or not having a home cooked dinner for my kids so over the last 4 years of our marriage I have done a majority at least 80-90 percent of all house hold chores along with being ignored and turned away when I seek affection.
After reading the Sex Starved Marriage I noticed some things I was doing wrong such as play groping if I was recieving a hug and such. I have since stopped this. I can not get her to read anything she hates it. So this book can not help her untill she becomes receptive to its usefullness. She is under the impression that I have a problem and not her. we have sex less than 15 times a year and it is on her schedual when she feels like allowing me to and its always a are u done yet situation. Prioir to our marriage we had an active sex life that was great and mentally fullfilling instead of degrading. she says I need to learn to seduce her. How on earth can I do this when I cant get her to help with the kids, the chores, or admit that she needs to help work on this marriage. I have no interest in trying to learn to seduce her when I have no time to do it and she is non responsive to any affective given to her to start with.
(Add in) I almost forgot our scheduals are so very different also When I am working out of the home my schedual is early to work and home by 3pm she doesnt get home till after work at 9pm some nights. I believe she also has a poor body image based on her own mind not of my making. I believe and tell her everyday how beautifull she is.
Please give any suggestions you may have I am at my witts end and tired of feeling put down and turned into a monk.
