Hi AF,

That is interesting, for sure. What book is that in?

To be honest, while I thought it was beautiful that you were "right there" with your forgiveness, I was doubtful that it was absolute. I was guessing that once you reconciled, resentment might emerge then and you'd have to work through those feelings and reach a truer forgiveness down the road.

My sister used to say that men process later than women. I have no evidence to reference for the validity of that statement. My point is that maybe your anger has yet to really peak. She's been pretty horrible to you, and sometimes I feel more anger and disgust about her actions than YOUR posts seem to show!

I'm not saying that anger is healthy, especially if you get stuck in it. I do think it has its purpose, though, in the process of recognizing the parts of yourself that have been harmed, healing, and building a stronger future for yourself.

Still in awe of your resilience and determination to fight. Good for you!

Lucky