Divorce looming #11

[volleydog]

Kevin you really need to get to AA and some C. Unfortunately I knew the drinking was going to come back, been there. You need figure out a way to control yourself wo/self medicating, you need the TOOLS to do this. I know you didn't drink for a while but when you started to get more depressed you went back to it and unless you get help you will again.

[antlers]

I'm here to tell you, as a female,
#1 - Be a man.
#2 - Be a father.

Things that so many of us here need to do regardless!

[K4D]

I sent a text to MIL this morning apologizing and explaining they were just friends. I told her I will make sure it doesn't happen again.

Kevin

[K4D]

I spoke to W. She has no issue with last night. She told me not to apologize to her mom for that. Her mom is pissed at me though.

Her mom told me not to text or email her.

I told W thw kids want bunk beds and that her mom is against it. W said its not her moms choice.

I don't want this apartment. I just want to be back with W. But there seems to be no way to avoid it.

Kevin

[K4D]

Sorry everyone. I let everyone down. I am regretting things terribly today.

Please stick with me and ignore the stuff from last night. I'm gonna work even harder. I won't slip up on the drinking again.

Kevin

[davidswife]

Kevin,

Unfortunately, I'm not surprised by what happened last night. Please, go to AA, get counseling.

Also, leave your MIL alone. Leave your wife alone. Leave other women alone.

Geez Kev, you can't help but shoot yourself in the foot every time.

When are you going to go 24 hours without mentioning her or contacting her?

Be a MAN. You are STILL acting like a BOY.

Stacy

[volleydog]

Kevin the person you're really letting down is you. PLEASE get some help.

[MrNiceGuy]

Your quick reactions to any external input are similar to ones I've struggled with. I am getting better at only checking personal e-mails once daily and only talking to W at most every OTHER day. It's HARD, and it took practice and serious resistance of the temptation.

Try to go 24 hours without apologizing to MIL, to W, to a store clerk, to anybody, and not even to us. Don't Apologize! Every time you do you train your brain to focus on your mistakes rather than what you are doing correctly.

Tell us, what worked for you today? What did you do well today?

[K4D]

I'm going to keep posting.

W is mad at me foe using D11's house key this weekend instead of the garage door opener. She said she doesn't want me having access to her house and how does she know I won't make a copy. I did not make a copy and I have no plans to. She sais we will talk tonite. She is mad at me. Her mom is mad at me.

The dog was out in the drive way somehow in the rain when she got home. I guess the gate didn't close all the way.

She wasn't happy with D7's room even though the rest of the house was done.

I can't win with her. Her and her mom find every reason to nitpick me to death no matter what I do.

I guess we will see hoq the talk goes tonite.

Kevin

[volleydog]

She said we will talk tonight.

Do you really think it's a good thing to talk to her tonight? I know you want to do whatever she wants but you can't. If you HAVE to talk tonight if she starts yelling and getting mean PLEASE PLEASE do not take it. Stand up to her say you seem upset it would probably be better to talk another time and LEAVE.

BTW I don't get her problem with the key if you can get in through the garage with the opener...makes no sense to me.