yes, we will keep trying........ i told him that I am under threat in a way; emotionally I am exposed. no matter what goes on in a marriage I consider it a sacred act and would have liked to have known what was going t happen, to enable room for discussion...... like you dondon I have worked extremely hard for the last five-six years; in all honesty i have believed it has been for the future of my family. I am not sure about your w but my h seems to have gotten over his love for me. It is so confusing........I guess the only hope we have is to detach with love and keep praying......praying fr forgiveness, for strength that everyday we can be better parents, better individuals......they loved us once very much, enough to want to be married to us...... Its hard to know, isn't it; in the whole realm of fate is this a necessary separation n the road to reconciliation or a necessary separation in terms of us finding a new life and new partner.