Ok so dinner was good. He talked not about R or D, just talked. She brought up the custody subject which was a court date today. I asked her what she wanted and she said it didn't matter what the judge said that she would never keep our S from me. Other then that overall it was just a good night out for the two of us, we were there for almost 3 hours longest we spent together in a long time.
Now on to court today. I think I may have made a big mistake, she was filing for full custody, and i did speak with a lawyer about it. i was told I have 2 options, I could go in front of the judge and say i want legal counsel or the lawyer could go with me to try and speak with W to reach an agreement. Under the lawyer recommendation she was there with me. The W did not look happy, and would not talk, she had no clue that I had a lawyer on retainer. I tried to talk with her and explain different options but she wouldn't listen. All she would say is that I made a big mistake. All I managed to get in was saying that I did it to protect myself, that I wasn't signing over full custody. She said that I ruined everything, I asked her if there had been any tiny thoughts of R in her mind, and she siad if there were they are gone now. I simply walked away at that point fighting the tears. Now we have to go back on May 19th for custody. I tried to talk to her breifly after leaving. All I could get is that the next time that she will talk to me will be in court, and that I will be served divorce papers before then. So much for that little thought or R in her head, talk about screwing up majorly.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story