LTL,Here is what I see. You are pursuing her non-stop. She has told you, she needs some space from you, she doesn't want to ML to you and you keep trying and trying. If I tell ANYONE I don't want to ML to them, then I mean it. It would be disrespectful to try. No wonder your W says you don't listen to her!
From my point of view, you need to stop pursing her. It is NOT Working! Yes, you may get a hug now and them but you know what, she still wants to get away. You need to do things differently before you lose her forever!
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09