Do you mean from the exposed spouse, or from those in your support group to whom you exposed the affair?
If you mean the former, then my advice is "Hunker down and let 'er blow" for a bit, because it eventually dies down.
Junkies don't like it much when you mess with their stash. But they usually get over it, and -- hopefully -- someday see the truth that you had to separate the addict from the source of their addiction, by whatever reasonable means possible.
