So, it is confirmed. H has had it in him the entire time. It just took work and communication for him to use it.
Congratulations, Lucky --> success and weekends like that one are what keep the recovery process moving forward. Well done!
That said, do -not- expect that everything is now "all fixed" and the hard work is done. There -will- be bumps and back-slides, and regressions into old patterns of behavior (on both of your parts). Long-term, sustainable change takes daily, conscious effort, particular in the beginning, and it also takes picking yourself up and dusting off, every time you get knocked down. Brunhilde hasn't sung yet!
Alright, enough of my raining on your parade! It was the big P time of the month in my household, so all of my weekend plans got waylaid. Call my grumpy.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
