We all want to be wanted and chosen for who we are. So does your H. The problem for your H is that YOU AREN'T CHOOSING HIM. He's on hold, reserved for you, but you're not sure. Yuck. My guess is that he immediately went into self-protection mode and simply mirrored your indifference so that he wouldn't have to be the fool in this situation.
If you have a problem with HOW your H loved you, then there is something that you can review, hash out, examine, analyze, and resolve. Perhaps his love language has more to do with Acts of Service, so that is what he appreciates as love from you, but your love language might be different, making it hard for you to understand why he loves the way he does. Certainly, not being loved in the way you need to be loved by your H will build deep resentment. This item could be a major piece of the puzzle.
Do something nice for you and the kids today. Something that might inspire JOY!
