I understand your wife is angry. I thought your goal was to establish some boundaries for yourself, so that you had respect for yourself.
But if your goal is to make sure your wife doesn't get angry with you, I would have given you different advice. Ofcourse she'll rant and rave and try to make you feel bad - that's just walk away script. They all say the same thing.
What are you so afraid of? That she'll divorce you if you don't take the bags to the dump - oh, wait - SHE'S ALREADY DIVORCING YOU.
You need to decide what to do for YOU and your CHILDREN. You come across as pleasing, insecure and timid - not attractive to women. I would start really trying to do all you can in regard to your children, women love seeing that type of interaction.
I'm sorry if I gave you bad advice, I thought you had different goals.
