WAW1

[markhaving probs]

I have just received a phone call from me wife asking me if I had received the text regarding the garden rubbish. She went into a rant about me being selfish and all I call about is myself, and this is a main reason why we are in this position. She then went on and said "you should be clearing the garden because you said you loved me and you promised to help me, absolute crap. Now I have got to drag the children down to the tip and make 5 trips because you are too selfish". I have so made the right decision about us". She then went on and attacked me for lack of help with the children, taking them to school, picking them up which she said I have never done and never offered. She then said what time are you coming over to pick the children up for tea, I told her and she said why can't they stay over, and I told her I was going out. She then went into a rant again saying I was selfish AGAIN, and just think about yourself - out of sight, out of mind. She said my sons bike needed repairing and she could'nt do everything herself. I felt like saying "well we know why", but I didn't.

She is right on these things and in actual fact I have not rung my children since I saw them on Friday night/Saturday morning, which is hindsight is scandalous really. I feel I have really made the situation worse by not taking the bags. I told her I have no imput into the house so I making a boundary that I will be as co-operative as I can with the children but that's it. She then asked me what I was going to do when I moved back into the house in June when she moves out. I told her I would cut the grass and keep it in shape,

She sort of then said if it wasn't for your selfishness we would not be in this situation, unless I mis-heard her, but if I did hear right this is the first time she has 'opened up'. She also said mutual friends of ours who are divorced the husband who she said had an affair still goes around to the house and cuts trees etc. My FIL also apparantly asked her why I did not do much work in the garden.

I feel absolutely blown away with this conversation and I did the wrong thing and tried to deny I was selfish, which was probably the wrong thing to do. I now feel as though I should take the bags but would look weak.

Please somebody give me advice as I really need to know what to do?