It really is good to hear from you Atty! I think of you now and again, especially when in Akron! I got to eat at the Diamond Grill? What ever the little shack is that has the most amazing steaks. I had a visit with my SIL yesterday. To clarify, it is TJ's sister. I found out some things that I hope comfort those who think that the OW is having the life you were suppose to live. OW is moving out Wednesday, and SIL was sure if one more thing neg. affected TJ is would crash him in. He and OW had an ugly break up. I do not know what, and she would not say (I did not want to know) and TJ is very apprehensive about being alone, as that is where he will have to face his fears. I think fear is a good word. It must have been very ugly, and TJ has withdrawn alot. Not too much contact with his family, at least not regularly. I wonder if police were involved. OW and TJ were in couples counseling. According to TJ he already had a failed marriage, and he has to give this a good shot. I guess that failed. He feels like a failure. He is drawn to the spiritual side of life. Just a fledgling, but the basics are there. They have not been before.
This is all God's hand at work. I have aided this by staying far, far away. No blame or dirt has landed on me. I am grateful. SIL can see this and is in supportive of me. She still prays for TJ and me every night. I believe for the restoration of my marriage. I am in capable hands.
For those of you who are spiritual, make no mistake this IS God's work. If you can focus on yourself, and take the high road, it will give HIM the opportunity to do HIS work. Step aside, and pray. I have heard that this is a spiritual battle for our lost one's soul. I believe it wholeheartedly. You have to use spiritual weapons to combat this ugliness. I do believe that the battle for TJ's soul will be won, and if he does win that battle, then I will rest easy. I will be more peaceful.
He knows about becoming a grandfather, and his reaction was favorable. He contacted his family right away and seem joyful at the news. I do know this is a good thing for TJ and D24, but I expected it to topple him over, and his happiness? Does that mean he missed his family? Because now that OW is gone, our daughters are rewarding him with attention. The have committed to a 4th of July weekend with him, and I think he will have a better relationship with them. I am thankful for that. SIL is encouraging me to stay in touch with the family. Graduations, and visits to MIL are in the future. I have made it clear to her that I am avoiding TJ but if God has other plans, I will be open to that. I have found refuge in God's will. I hope this for TJ too. I do have hopes of putting my marriage back together. I think I see evidence that TJ misses our family????? I still love him. I have that love safely boxed up, on a shelf, but I know where it is. So thanks for posting. Same phone number Atty. One of my fondest memories is that tacky interview we did, pretending to be notorious, and very very raunchy.I am not in touch with Friendlyone, but hope you are?? Sorta kinda? Maybe the touch that means phone calls, or whatever? Love to have an update on you. Hope your life is full and those kids are doing well. Take care, hope this helps those who think that Michigan has greener pastures. Not.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
