I need some swift advice. My wife who mostly communicates via text has just told me she has been in the garden all day with her dad and has 10 rubbish bags and other stuff to take to the tip. She used my name for the first time in a while in a text but I suspect it is because she wants me to do something for her, usually the texts are negative and my name is never used. She 'wondered if I would be kind enough to take them to the tip, hope that is ok, thanks alot'.
Coach said a first step to reconcilliation is friendship. If a friend asked me to take some bags to the tip then I would, though I would not say the way my wife has been treating me would be constued as 'friendship'. This is the conundrum - does taking the rubbish to the tip be seen as doormat and 'cake-eating', or a sign of friendship in helping re-build our relationship?
I am going to tell her I will do anything to help her if it pertains to the children. I am going to set this as a boundary, she is quite happy to buy light fittings, curtains without my imput as she told me the house will not be mine much longer. Yet, she still wants to be a run around when it suits her.
I have great advice from davidswife which I am going to take, but before I send my response please could I have some other views before I text back. What should I write in my response?
Last edited by markhaving probs; 04/27/0906:54 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
