Well I guess moving to the divorced forum was just wishful thinking. We are separated but sharing a house still.
We had court on the 15th, & our hearing was postponed. The brand new judge had a conflict of interest. We've had proposals and counters going back & forth between attorneys for weeks. It seems that H wants to drag this out as long as possible. Gee what a surprise. <sarcasm>
He's been sleeping on an air mattress in the family room for months now but coming in/out of the bedroom/bathroom whenever he chose to.
After another major blow out fight, about money of course, I put a lock on the bedroom door, & moved his necessities out. Having a bit of privacy has made it bearable. He & I don't speak (well he did ask me where the plunger was the other day) except to exchange information about the kids. It's so surreal at times. Our anniversary is on Tuesday. I thought we'd be living separately & close to divorced by now.
Tonight someone reminded me how much my posting & sharing my experiences helped them through their tough times. It has helped me a lot too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
