I understand what you are saying about my sister 'chickening out'. But how do I file for divorce, get a protection order, and when he asks me why I want a divorce, just say becuase.....
I want him to know that he did not keep this a secret liek he thought that he could. I want him to know that because of his sexually addictive ways and the things that I have found out about him is the reason why he is losing his marriage. I don't want him to think that I jsut decided that I did not want to make this marriage work anymore. I want him to know that he is the one that messed this up not me. I want him to see how he has hurt me because of HIM!!
Maybe I am thinking with my heart and my emotions and not with my head right now but I don't want to take any of the blame for what he has been doing. He should be told that he is not as great has he thinks, that he is not in as much control as he believes. If I can tell him this things how am I to get past it. Get closure on this. I would always feel like he would think that he got away with these behaviors and that I was stupid and never knew what he was doing.
I know that it may be playing with fire but I can only pray that he will be the only one to get burnt.
I will think about your advise. I think that I have until Wednesday before they serve him with divorce papers. I will seriously consider what you all have said.
By the way, my sister never had any plans on setting this up with him. She plans on ignoring him if he text her. She thinks he is disgusting for what he has done to me and she agrees with me that my H has a sexual addiction problem. She does not have to worry about chickening out since it was never going to get set up in the first place.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
