I suppose, if I looked, I could find my own thread. But, something weird happened to me yesterday, and I am going to put it on Yoyo's thread.
My feet have been hurting, so I went to a store that sells arch supports. I went in the clothes that I wear for bellydance class. Despite being a few weeks over 50 and sweaty, I was without a doubt the sexiest looking person in the store at that time. And this was my second visit, as I was happy with the first set of arch supports that I had bought, I was going to invest, yes invest is the correct word, in more.
So this handsome young man behind the counter comes right over to help me. And he brought me the cadillac of arch supports that I was looking for and a couple of pairs of shoes that I wanted to try on. He said he remembered me from my first visit, and he took a lot of interest in how the shoes fit my feet, asking to see them from the front and then the back. I felt like Charlotte in that episode of Sex and the City when she meets the man with the foot fetish. And he did manage to work the question "are you married?" into the shoe discussion. Anyway,....
So I go to check out, and the man says something that I really didn't hear. Then he say's, "I mean Sara, that's your name,Sara." And I said, "Yes, why, what did you call me?" And he said "Lisa, you remind me of an old girlfriend named Lisa." So I assured him that I was not Lisa, and I did not know him at all. And then....he blushed. And he looked confused, and was obviously having a hard time dealing with his memories of Lisa.
Just a weird thing. I know I have done that to one or two men before. It's weird to be on the receiving end of it. But the weirdest thing is, the arch supports don't feel right in my shoes. So I have to go back. And I am really hoping that he didn't give me the wrong ones on purpose to make me come back.
DD17's senior prom has come and gone. She had a wonderful time. She looked gorgeous. Ahhhh....youth... I can't belive my baby is a senior. Now, I just have to make it through graduation.
Well, I must say the prom dinner was a little interesting. H called DD about 1:00 and asked if the dad in charge of cooking their prom dinner needed help. She told him no, but if he wanted to come to the dinner it was at 5:30. He said he would be there. I must admit that I was disappointed. Yes, I know she's his daughter too, but I really didn't feel like seeing him for a couple of hours or more. But, it wasn't about me, it was about DD. So I sucked it up.
When H got there, I was busy doing something for the kids. I didn't even acknowledge him when he walked in. A couple of my close friends knew what is going on and knew I didn't wish to be around him. I just stayed busy and tried my best not to make contact. A couple of times he spoke to me, I wasn't rude, but I answered quickly and then walked off. Both of my friends said he kept staring at me. Once during the dinner I caught my DD looking at me and then looking across the room at her dad. I felt really bad for her. I know it has to be hard on her when all of the other parents there helping with the dinner were "together".
At one time I was talking to a friend and he came up to us. I just turned and walked away. Later, he finally more or less cornered me. He told me that he got a call that they were having a lighting problem at the prom location and they wanted to know if he would come and help. As he was explaining this he put his hand on the small of my back and the next thing I know he had his arm around my waist. Okay, so when you talk to someone you have to touch them? Luckily, someone came in the kitchen and said your DD wants you to come out and take pictures for her. I was glad to go!
Today, DD 20 and I were going to pick up something for dinner and her cell phone rang. She talked a while and then handed the phone to me and said dad wants to talk to you. He asked me if I ever got my blinds hung. I said no. He said I'll come over and hang them for you. I said well, I'm not sure where all of the brackets are for all of them, I'll have to look. He said, well, they were on top of the desk. I said not all of them, I don't want any of them hung until I can get all of them hung. I'll call you when I find them. He said, oh, okay. I think he was very surprised I turned down his offer to help. Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to come over. I didn't bite...
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Just a weird thing. I know I have done that to one or two men before.
Sara, Being a Man if you want you can send me a piture of you in your belli dancing outfit and I will let you know what I think I have seen Saffie in her black Bikini and I can compare.....
Kim,
If you need help hanging anything let me know also. I have had compliments that most of the stuff I have is well hung..
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
No, I don't want to compare my figure to Saffie's. I've seen the bikini photo too!
Yoyo, it's taken him a while to even notice that you are not interested in him anymore. Of course, that does peak his interest. At least stay hard to get for a while. Maybe you should become a virgin again, and insist on monogamy before you will have sex with him. I wonder if he would go for it again.
I don't think I looked so "smokin'hot" after bellydance class. And I do think we have to consider who walks into arch support shoe stores -- not the young, hot babes. But what I can't get out of my mind was how he almost wouldn't accept that I wasn't Lisa. How the memories of this woman overtook him. And yet, they aren't together, so something happened in the past that separated them. Boy, if he had looked like my old boyfriend, we could have had some sick relationship started there!
Just a weird thing. I know I have done that to one or two men before.
Sara, Being a Man if you want you can send me a piture of you in your belli dancing outfit and I will let you know what I think I have seen Saffie in her black Bikini and I can compare.....
Kim,
If you need help hanging anything let me know also. I have had compliments that most of the stuff I have is well hung..
Doc
Gee, Doc, aren't we being a naughty boy today?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Maybe you should become a virgin again, and insist on monogamy before you will have sex with him. I wonder if he would go for it again.
I think I'd also have to insist that he is only allowed one family! I've finally gotten to a point that I should have gotten to long ago. Now it's my time to make to make the decisions. If he can't abide by them, then it is time for him to stay gone.
Originally Posted By: Sara
I don't think I looked so "smokin'hot" after bellydance class. And I do think we have to consider who walks into arch support shoe stores -- not the young, hot babes.
LOL Well, when you put it that way, yes are a "smokin hot" babe. I'm sure you are quite young compared to the usual clientele.
Originally Posted By: Sara
But what I can't get out of my mind was how he almost wouldn't accept that I wasn't Lisa. How the memories of this woman overtook him. And yet, they aren't together, so something happened in the past that separated them. Boy, if he had looked like my old boyfriend, we could have had some sick relationship started there!
Hmmmm...Is that how affairs begin? Maybe you've solved part of the mystery.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well, I settled in to watch American Idol, and ended up missing half of it! The phone rang and and lo and behold it was my H asking if I had found those brackets for the blinds yet. I told him, honestly, I had not looked. I guess those blinds not being up are bugging him a lot more than they are me!
He engaged me in conversation about myself and our daughters. I was friendly, but not overly. Honestly, never thought I would say it, but I'm having conflicting feelings about him now. Part of me says take it slow and see if he is willing to work on our relationship and the other part of me says, I've taken it slow far too long and I need to move on.
I want a man who I can talk to, someone who appreciates me, someone who wants to spend time with me, someone who only wants ONE woman in his life. I don't think that's too much to ask for. After all isn't that the way a relationship is supposed to be. I'm not sure H can give me that.
Odd thing happened today. I met a friend to go walk. When I got in the car to go home, this song was on the radio. I had never heard it before. The very end of it was on and I almost felt like it was a sign to me. Yes, it sounds very corny, but....
Keep him at arm's length. That is a good idea. Life will be different for you next year. Maybe your oldest daughter will move back home with you. I can't imagine that she wants to continue rooming with her father. But you need to start getting a little wilder and go out more with people, not couples if possible.
You still have a mojo! Must be the belly dancing!
Well, when you put it that way, yes are a "smokin hot" babe. I'm sure you are quite young compared to the usual clientele.