Court is Mon. Need Help - See H - 1st time in 5 m

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First I would like to say sorry for shouting in my last post. It is just very frustrating because I do take everything that is told to me but and when I really need help and see 9 responses. Of course they are from the once that have always been with me and I do really really thank you.

If you are looking at this for the first time you will probably need to look at my other threads to get an idea of what is going on.

Well let me tell you it was interesting. We were to have court on Monday morning @ 0930. Well everyone is there EXCEPT H. Apparently he wrote a letter to the court asking to just phone in. My lawyer said that the court DENIED the request unless there was an agreement that was made on how much support. Of course there wasn't. Lawyer said that they received a copy of the letter that was sent back to H with a big DENIED stamped on it. So, we are in court and he was e-mailing the court reporter earlier in the morning asking what time to call in. We are sitting in the court room at 0930 and the judge asked us if we made an agreement and that is why Rob wasn't there. Ummm NO! So now we are all waiting for him to call in. At 0950 he finally calls. Well, do you think the judge was pissed? Oh yea!

When he did finally get on the phone the judge asked if Rob agreed with the request and he said "Well ya all except the money". Judges response was, "OK then why are you not here sitting in front of me"? "What was it about my instructions didn't you understand"? "I'm not going to listen to anything until both parties are present". So we had a new court date this last Fri.

Since that time my lawyer asked me to provide proof that if H would have stayed in town that he would still be working for the RR. That was easy enough. So I got that info together and that was submitted as an addition to the petition.

My lawyer calls me on Thurs night to let me know that she won't be there in the morning because of a trial that was going into the next day. (damn it) So the owner of the law firm is going to fill in for her, ok sure. We get to the court house and I see his car. First thing I noticed was that he still has MN plates on it, which leads me to believe that he still has a MN Lic and probably no insurance. Get inside and I see him.

I don't think he looks good at all. I noticed he is much more slumped over. His eyes were very blood shot and he looked WEATHERED. He wouldn't make eye contact with me AT ALL! When I got there I did look at him and smiled and said hi. He gave me a 1/2 smile and said hi. Once in court he kind of put his foot in his mouth several times.

First the judge reminded him that if he is going to go about this without a lawyer that he has got to follow the rules and no one can help him do that. He mentioned that the statement that he sent the court was not copied to my lawyer and that it was not signed by a notary. The lawyer made his statement regarding what I was asking for and why. Then it was Rob's turn to make his statement.

He said that the bills were passed due when he left (I'm thinking, so you left and you knew things were already behind, which they weren't, it was only one bill that was. he didn't know, I'm the one that did the bills). That he has been working another job until he gets called back to the RR and he tried to say that he wouldn't be working now but we proved that one wrong. Then the judge asked if he has been paying his child support. He said that just recently he was able to send some money in. The judge asked him why he hasn't paid until now. He said he was waiting until his checks get garnished. HELLO!!!!!! OK so you can't pay on your own you have to wait for someone else to do it. The judge then pretty much didn't want to hear anymore and just said that he would have his answer next week.

Once we walked out I passed him and I looked in his eyes and said "If you want to talk we can", he said "Talk about what, my grandmas sewing machine". I didn't say anything else and just walked away.

I just don't understand how alcohol can change someone into that and make them so cold.

My lawyer did say that since he is able to keep a position here and that the judge knows that, that he could make him come back.

Well I will give you updates when there is any.

Any advise on why and what to do about my heart breaking all over again would be great. He looks so bad. I could tell he isn't healthy and that really scares me. I'm a nurse and I know his health history and that makes it even worse.

I do have a package of pictures for him and I wash't sure if I should put a letter in or not?