New job is tough. Learning curve??? Imagine walking up to a 13 story (oh and that number 13 has significance LOL). Walk up so close that your nose itches from touching the brick, then look up.........and up.....and up..... and up..... and get the point?
That is the learning curve LOL! oh let me say that again ...LOL!
WOW! Thank goodness man OR woman invented the Vodka Martini, very dirty, blue cheese olives...and I don't give a dang if it's shaken or stired LOL!!!!!
Oh yea....did I remember to say i hate my ex wife???????
JUST JOKING>>>>>>>>>>Hate is pretty tough.....let's try ????
Hhmmm, well, what do I say about your teacher story ......
I guess it will make parent teacher meetings interesting for you & your friend. Now which one of you are going to tell her???? That's what I would like to know??? Drawring straws are you?
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Ex W..... maybe I am just getting tired of the situation. Too much in such a compressed time. Of course some of that is my doing (new job, new city, new situation, etc...)
Or maybe I am just coming to the realization that this wasn't all my fault and I think I could have met a hundred different women who would have never put me through this.
Or maybe I am thinking I deserve better. Or maybe I am just tired.
You are right about the roller coaster.
I need to break away from old habits though. She has called me about three times in the last week with problems. I need to let her know that I am not her husband anymore and she needs to call someone else unless it affects my daughter.
Oh well.... just ready for things to get on the fast track to normal.
yep... I don't know. She still calls me when she needs help but she is so deep in with this other guy. Saw a phone bill and she had 1100 minutes talking to him.
At some point I end up thinking what that heck. If she wants something else then knock yourself out.
I made a list of pros and cons like I suggested to PH. The cons are big. Unfortunately it is difficult because many of them happened in the last year or so as our marriage was going off track.
She is bizarre also. She is in love with this other guy but still wants to hold on to me as a friend. Why she thinks that should be the norm is beyond me...other than I am there when she calls.
I wonder why I feel the way I do when I sit with her. I feel comfortable and want to be with her? Is that because I can't? Is it because she left me for a guy who on paper is mor successful? Is it because I feel old and think I won't meet someone else? Or am I big weenie?
WTH???? It's turning my hair gray and losing it. I need to get my sanity back which means I need to get away from her.
Sometimes I realize I am dealing not with the person but with a dream and dreams die hard. It is not really any different than the fantasy that she is experiencing with the other guy.
So will they let me stay on the boards if I say Kaput?
new job has a huge learning curve but things got much better today! Started a conversation with someone else who went through the same thing and he is going to sit with me tomorrow and show me the databases that I need....COOL BEANS!!!!!
wifes life is in meltdown.... problem after problem... lost power, had a bunch of people coming over for a meeting, had hundreds of dollars of food in fridge, called to ask for help...don't love you but need your help LOL! Next day the vehicle is messing up and she gets ripped off by the repair shop for a tune up that didn't solve the problem since it turns out to be the transmission. So I am involed now and have it going to another guy. There are other things too.... My buddy calls it KARMA LOL!
yeah, I know guys... let her be on her own. I think I have kind of given up and just feel that need to help out. I do get mad at my self after I say okay, but it is hard to just say no. Feel like I am being a jerk. Need to just stop answering the phone maybe. I am thinking here she doesn't have anyone to help her but in next life she will so I can distance myself there. Foolish probablly... feel like an addict that can't "just say no".... Believe me it has me worried about myself??????? I seriously need to get therapy ha ha! But I like the KARMA thing that is going on
Decided the other day that her cheating with a lawyer (and I assume a well off one based on the 20 conversations about families who make over 150K being lower middle to lower class). It's a win win for me.....
1. if they stay together for the duration then my daughter is almost guaranteed to go to college (money is covered)
2. If they don't then
A. he dumped her and I am good since she gets a dose of her own medicine
B. or she dumps him and I am good with that because this guys is a piece of crap. (unless my wife walked off the plane without her rings on and never said she had a daughter. Any real human would have said no way am I involved here if i am going to screw up a kids life) Selfish scum bag, least that's my take.
Right now we are still in the same city. I will move out to CO this summer. The wife will move out there about the same time but needs to get a job first.
The plan is we will both live there close so we can co parent.
The other guy is there and she has friends there so she wants to move there badly.
I am excited to go there only because the new job. I actually have started to make close friends here and would rather stay but who knew that would happen. Plus I had a great offer from the guys in CO.
I will have fun out there also. It will just take some time to adjust and make friends again.
