Divorce looming #11

[K4D]

I finally had to have the talk with D11 today. She was hounding me for appetizers, a more expensive meal, desert afterwards at the restarant we were at. She would not let up. I kept saying no to certain things. It bothered me. Especially infront of the in laws who are about to be ex laws.

So this afternoon I pulled her aside and said hey. I'm sorry, but things are going to be different from now on for a while. I told her that I don't make as much as your mom and while yes she can and does afford the luxuries that you want, I can't right now. I told her I love her and will make sure she is taken care of. But I can't just buy her and her sister every whim they want now. As it is, since I am a contractor, I am not even making full salary what I would be if I were permanent because I don't get paid for holidays. I also found out that where I work, they let the contractors go for 2 weeks during Christmas since nobody is there to supervise. So I have to save for that to.

So D11 understood after I talked to her. I did not want to have that talk with her. But this was the second time she has pulled this and I can't keep combatting her in front of people.

It bothers me that I can't provide what she wants as me and W have been able to provide quite a bit the past 2 years. But that is no longer the case for me at this time.

I told her I am studying and working hard to provide her better in the future, but right now I am kind of limited. She said so you are waiting on raises and promotions? I said kind of yes. But not waiting, I am also trying to prepare and seek out.

Well, apparently the kids have already been working out the plans for their room in the apartment. And they want a bunk bed and D11 will sleep on top and D7 will sleep on bottom. They are planning all kinds of things. This is going to be fun. I am somehow looking forward to working with them and their ideas. They are excited about being able to design their own room together. Its gonna be neat.

Kevin