One thing I've learned naej, is NOT to plan anymore. Having a direction in mind is useful, being rigid about how and with whome to get there is stupid. The last 13 years of my life I thought H was part of my future. I even thought that without him, there would be no future for me. Now, I try to keep all options open. Keep my dreams simple and to my immediate reach. Life is every day, not someday. I am learning. K
