my story... finally

[bluerain]

To answer a previous question on here, if its good for the kids to have the 2 of you spend time together, Yes, absolutely, if you are not fighting or being nasty to each other. They need to know that the 2 of you are still a team an will continue to work together to make sure that they are safe.

Future, I had a similar situation, my H's OW was in another part of the state, on an island that he could only take an expensive plane ride to if he wanted to see her, so I had that on my side, in fact, because he was so far away from her, she started seeing someone else. H tried to surprise her, and caught her with her OTHER boyfriend. It would be beautiful if it wasnt so heartbreaking. Now we have been separated for 9 months, and just taking things a day at a time. No R talk, we are just reestablishing our friendship. He is living on the other side of the country so Im kind of forced to keep it slow.

I think that its hopeful that your W wants to spend time with you, and you have been doing some great DBing. Be patient, it took years for your M to get to this point, its not going to take time to fix too. Stay strong for your kids, and dont stop rebuilding this friendship with your wife, I thought that you said that they had broken the A off? Reestablishing your friendship very often is part of repairing your R.