It is a bitter thing when our spouse suddenly no longer holds any love for us in their heart. It is tough to accept, tough to believe, tough to overcome.

The alternative is to hang on in a relationship that really isn't one, constantly accepting next to nothing as our nourishment.

Just as in real life with our physical bodies, we eventually starve to death.

Second chances, third chances...heck, even fourth and fifth chances should be a regular, accepted part of doing everything possible to rebuild the love between and man and woman who have promised a life time to one another. But even these chances should be coming after our spouse expresses their desire FOR us and our life together. These extra chances are motivated by our spouse acknowledging that they have fallen short in giving the relationship their all.

Where has that happened K?

A life as a divorced person is far preferable to the treatment that he is giving you right now.

He treats you with the kind of disdain that is usually reserved for the ones in our lives that we would rather never have to deal with. Can he not even find the common decency to treat you with respect even if only because you are the mother of your children together?

Everything is about him.

Every conversation seems to be about HIS difficulties.

Every future plan has to do with HIS activities.

Every involvement with you seems to have to include the children or be because of the children.


I find very little redeeming in this man.

And I find nothing that suggests he has even the slightest interest in rebuilding/renewing a life with you.


And I am so very sorry to say these things.


You were in a much better place before he looked back.


Now it is time for you to move forward on your own. Whatever that includes, whatever it entails.


You have the ability to care for your children and yourself. Your strength is obvious. Fears about your future are really just fears of the unknown.


Stay strong and continue to believe in who YOU are.


Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."