I have been trying to figure this guy out for a long time! I think he wants to be married, but he doesn't really want to change anything, or do anything himself. Instead he wants to live his life, and blame you for everything that isn't right. I haven't seen him do or say anything that shows he is really serious. I don't like to say it, but that's what I am seeing. The only time he moves at all is when he thinks you might. And then only enough to make you think. Grrrrrrr.......