I think that was a good letter, it all seemed to be written with an undertone of love, but I wouldnt be surprised if she balks at it, or just tries to ignore it. Has she responded yet?
Not that I'm aware of. She read it, but I haven't gotten any reply. (She has not replied to any emails since January).
I have heard through mutual acquaintances her initial reaction was to ask for copies of the initial email so she can "get a restraining order" which I thought was amusing. She isn't aware of what it says - and I guess seems to assume it'll be a smoking gun showing I'm being unreasonable or irrational.
I recorded my confrontation with MIL/W so if they attempt to say I made any threats, etc. I have it recorded so I'm not concerned if I get a chance to prove it in court.
Basically it is the "mushroom cloud" reaction I've read about, and since I believe BPD is a factor I'm sure she has done some mental gymnastics to truly believe what she's saying. Of course... her look of horror told the entire story. If she has nothing to hide - why is she so concerned about people reading the P.I. report?
I believe they are hoping desperately to gain some sort of control over me, or at least the feeling of control, because I'm not responding according to "plan" and they cannot handle that. Based on "Splitting" I'm sure I've been split pitch-black at the moment, but they are desperately hoping to get something on me at this point.
So - I did send my attorneys copies of everything as well as my thought-process. This also serves as my counter-distortion campaign, and I'm sure even those who have heard how I'm "horrible" or whatever are going to consider. Some will probably support her no matter what, some won't be wanting to get in the middle, and others will support my efforts or at least hinder hers.
The more I try to appeal to reason - the more fanatical and "crazy" she starts to act. Yesterday after talking with them I do get a "numb" feeling where I'm trying to sort out reality - because their reality seems far separated from mine.
They seem "convinced" that what they want will be granted in the end - but ultimately when they get to the courtroom they seem lost and confused. Like at the first hearing they were wondering exactly what happened when they walked out without anything.
Read an interesting article - How personality disorders drive family court litigation. Worth a look if anyone is interested - the author is the guy who wrote Splitting. Seems familiar.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
