Transitioned the kids from W to me this afternoon. It's awesome having the kids, but the transitions are hard on all of us.
What I would love to know is why my W is being so nice to me. I'm nice in return, but I don't if I should be. The kids are her power over me. I so much want to keep things as positive as possible between us to ease the strain on the kids, so I always act happy and fun during the transitions. They are the poor innocent victims here, forced to ride this train. I worry that my desire to protect the kids from negativity is making me look weak to my W. She's under this illusion that they're just fine, yet I'm left holding them while they cry and ask why we can't all live together. She says that's normal and healthy. Yes, that is normal for kids who are forced to endure separation and divorce, and it is healthy for them to express their feelings, but that doesn't make it okay that they've had to endure this.
