Thank you davidswife. I am going to use your line and then explain to her I am now setting a boundary (as stated above). i am also going to expand on the fact she decides on the house fittings etc, therefore as I am no longer a part of the decision process I am no longer assisting with 'household' tasks.
What do you think?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years