A&K, I understand that it makes you feel like a prostitute, but I just wonder if its a good idea for you to turn the sex tap off on your H. You mentioned that you rejected him during your M, so could this be a 180? Also, Im sorry, but I couldnt find whether he was having an affair or not, if he is, then FORGET what I just said. The last thing you need right now is an STI!

But really, this man is still your H, right? I dont think that theres anything wrong with making love with your spouse. Especially if its one of the few intimate connections that you can still share. Maybe he needs to feel like he isnt part of a sex starved marriage anymore and you can use this time to prove to him that thats true.

If you really dont feel comfortable with it, then for sure dont do it, but maybe you should do some research into sex starved marriages, I think that theres actually a forum on here for it. See if thats part of what was going on in your sitch.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...