Accelerated divorce due to OM...normal?

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I wonder if she is starting to realize what this life she is choosing will mean to her and the kids, by mentioning the 8 houses in 4 years.

If I were you, I wouldnt worry about this other relationship too much, basically, what Ive found in my research, and through personal experience, A's almost NEVER work out. Be patient, and spend this time making you and your kids' life better. be strong for yourself, set up boundaries and demand respect for you and your M. She probably has told her new friends what a terrible H/father you are and them seeing that that is not the case would make her look like a liar.

I would ask her that she not introduce the kids to the OM until after the D process. They should not be exposed to something like that, its not a value that I would want my kids to learn anyway. If something in a M gets hard, johnny and suzy, its okay for the mommy or daddy to go mess around with someone else. I dont think so.

It was nice to hear you say those nice things about her. I think that too often the LBS spouse doesnt notice those things anymore.