You don't want to be 48 and still stuck in this position.
That statement strikes very close to home with me still being 48, but I understand what you are saying to Kalni.
Kalni, it's a choice you need to make and you cant foresee the outcomes of either. You can hang in there hoping he has some sort of awakening in the future and want to do all it takes to rebuild a superb marriage. However, if he does not, it could leave you with a bitter attitude about relationships and make it difficult to trust someone else. And if you divorce, how will it feel later when he admits that he did not treat you well and wish he had a second chance.
I must admit, if I was in your situation, the decision would be difficult. I would probably stick with it as there is no OP involved which creates severe damage to reconciling. As John says, you need to hold off on some big talks for a few days following the raising of emotions in the car. Try to think of ways that you could have done to have difused the situation before it got to that point. Just remember, when you argue, no one wins. And express, but dont defend your emotions.
Hey Purple, I hope all is well down under (but there are still crazy drivers in Perth). I made a similar "us love" CD and it did not make much of a difference. The one thing my X told me that made a huge impact was a 33 page album with pictures of us (and kids together) with lyrics mixed in (Love by John Lennon and Just the Way You Are" by Billy Joel). She looked at it a lot and she did ask for a second chance a week or so before the divorce was final. I had moved on by then, and as of today, I have no regrets.
