I agree, in that, she needs to know that if she leaves, you may not want her back, but have not totally closed the door to the idea. Also, once she starts trying to figure out how to handle things (financially) on her own, that may have a huge impact.
She doesn't really sound like she wants a separation from you (or your M) specifically. It sounds like she wants a separation from LIFE in general. She has a lot of classic MLC behaviors.
I think you're giving her enough rope... hopefully she won't hang herself. She has a husband who cares enough to fight for his M, a couple of kids who could, seriously, harbor some resentment towards her (lack of time, attention, etc...). She's a smart gal. Let's just hope not blind!
Good luck with it all, AJ.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
