I think you misunderstood my do not do anything drastic. I meant today or tommorow....let the dust settle from that altercation in the car.
I read your last post to Ali and you say you better start grieving an end of an era......
I think you have been grieving for a while and it may be time to stop grieving. We all have our limits (quite frankly i have always been amazed at how far we are willing to go to try to keep our marriages), if and when when you get there you will act accordingly.