Kalni, I've been following your sitch for at least a couple of months now and I see huge parallels with mine.
My sitch is: My h had an EA which turned into a one time PA (Sep 06). He confessed the PA (Nov 06) but lied about who it was with. He said it was someone I didn't know. On 12 Feb 07, he revealed that it was actually a fairly good friend of ours who would babysit our daughter regularly and whom I had confided in. That was bomb #1 and #2. We separated between Bomb #1 and Bomb #2 (29 Jan 07). You can understand, I'm sure, why I was extremely upset and mistrustful and angry with him about that.
Once we were separated he carried on what turned into a PA with another chick that turned out to be quite psycho. Heaps of bad stuff happened to do with her. I didn't know about her until Dec 07 and we had still been sleeping with each other from time to time - at least up till Oct 07 when he started going out with yet another girl. Around Jan 08 he broke up with her and started pursuing me again. But then he's backed off since about July 08 and is sooo busy with work (we are still separated and have a 7 year old daughter who lives with me). I'm pretty close to pulling the pin, there is so much water under the bridge that I think needs to be discussed and acknowledged (he even got physical with me in Nov 07 and lately I've been thinking about that every day) and he just keeps saying, after this work project is done, after this event is done etc etc.
So I am in major limbo too....I read your posts in desparation hoping for inspiration. I can see your frustration and am just as clueless.
Last edited by Purple; 04/26/0911:50 AM.
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