MLC and affair - how to handle?

[foreverhesaid]

I've been lurking for a while and have gleaned lots of information from both here and the books.

My question is that I am dealing with my husbands MLC and he is currently having an affair. All of the recommendations for MLC is to give him space and let him figure things out. So when do we do a relationship talk? Do I wait for him to bring things up? I want him to know that I DO NOT approve of his affair. He has been having an EA for about 8 months on the computer with an old girlfriend, and what I believe is a PA for maybe 4 months. I think that he thinks he is being sneaky and that I don't know about the PA. Since starting DB, about three weeks ago, I have noticed positive changes. He has initiated sex for the first time in many months, he volunteered that he loved me (also many months),and has been flirting with me. This weekend however, I think he went to see here again. I guess I just don't know if I should bring this up to him, or not rock the boat and keep up with DB and try to get more positive steps.

I haven't figured out yet how to post my situation on my profile, but will try to do that soon for background.

Thank you all for any insights. You have already provided me with a great deal of support.