I won't say I told you, but I'm thinking it. I don't have any advice but will pray for you and your sitch. You know I don't have any desire to reconcile either, but that doesn't stop me from posting here. I kind of think I need everyone's support as much now as I did a year ago when I wanted my marriage intact. Well maybe a little less, but still good to have friends that are going through the same experiences. I do think it will take a little time for us to really be ready for a long-term R, but I hope eventually we will all get there, and I know we will. (((((H))))) Karen