WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

Busy day...

Got D1 this morning, short 5 minute in/out thing. They were being nice/polite but I wasn't in the mood for it this morning, I just smiled and got ready to leave.

Same routine of the Mall/Park and then back home - and guess who was parked at the neighbor's house...

So I did something emotional today. I prepared an email to mutual friends/W's family/coworkers/etc. - about 30+ recipients.

I have fought with the decision to expose the truth behind the divorce. I know I've been vilified and made out to be a monster during this process based on the little bit that I have heard.

I cannot control what W chooses to do with her life, but I can no longer enable it by de facto condonation by keeping the secret that has been tearing our family apart.

W has been having an affair with our next door neighbor OM. I love her. I want to save our marriage and keep our family together. Please encourage her to do the right thing, end this relationship and all contact with OM and recommit to our marriage.

I am including some (not all) of the evidence gathered via private investigator. This has already been provided to W's attorney and is being used as evidence for an adultery fault ground. W's immediate family has refused to involve themselves in taking a stand even though they are aware of the truth.

Private Investigator Report

I included a copy of the P.I. report and snapshots from the P.I. video showing that it was indeed W.

We are two months into the game, and I've been doing a good job GAL/etc. and figured it was time to make a change since the A seemed like it was well-in-hand. I had asked W on a prior occasion to please stay away from next door and to show some respect for our M. Followed some advice and language from [censored] on exposing infidelity.

Then I hit send.

W/MIL showed up at my house to pick up D1, and I told W in front of MIL that I had sent 30 copies of the PI report and pictures to friends/family. *cue look of horror* And get this:

BOTH W/MIL started making excuses that she was only over there to "get her car fixed" which is actually reasonably plausible but completely ridiculous considering the circumstances.

Then came the anger reaction "How about we tell your grandmother what you did!" I told her to knock herself out. I don't think she'll get the reaction she expects.

But I did do all of my talking in an even voice, calm, collected, and made sure to tell her the reason I did it is because I care about my M. Told her I didn't want to hurt her, but I was no longer going to condone her A by keeping her secret.

MIL just continued her harping/etc. saying that W had never done anything that I was the one who had done everything wrong, etc. so I just shook my head as they walked out the door.

Awaiting the counter-move.