I think the one thing I didn't take into account is I think you mentioned she filed first with an attack. I would say in that case your back is up against a wall at that point.
Yeah, even when I suspected infidelity - I offered a mutual divorce/etc. prior to even going the P.I. route. I tried reconciliation, counseling, etc. and she refused to admit the A in counseling.
She filed on me, and I just had to "go through the motions" hiring a P.I. because I knew I'd catch her. Wouldn't have even done that if she'd filed a "no fault" but she tried to hit me with a "fault" divorce accusing me of being "mentally and physically cruel" so I had no choice.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
