Thanks Hopeful. Probably somebody in the near term will surprise me with a thoughtful response! Life is strange. I tend to try to see things from others perspectives and in doing so sometimes diminish the legitimacy of my own needs. So sometimes I need to do a little soul searching and figure out whether I'm just allowing people to put me in a drawer. I may need to be more assertive in some situations...and some not. Anyway, it's funny you mention STBX as we just had a good conversation on the phone about a speeding ticket she just got nailed for. I'd warned her about this speed trap a few weeks ago and she forgot. So we discussed the in and outs of fighting it etc. She got nailed going down a hill and the cop didn't reduce it to 10 over despite the fact that she was slowing down...what an A-hole. When the kids told me about it, I called her right away to be supportive. Hey, over 10 km an hour and it's points and then higher insurance rates, not especially good when you're trying to live within a single persons income (even if it was her choice!). She thanked me for calling and she's taking it to court where they may reduce it due to her being in the process of slowing down, besides it'll take nine months to get to court anyway. So this afternoon I'm taking the kids to a movie. Later dbers.
