So she like never shows any admiration towards you or compliments either?
Nope.
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How does she act when you do give her compliments?
Loves them. Like a junkie getting their fix.
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Does it change her demeanor at all?
Only temporarily. You have to continually feed the beast if you want her to stay in a good mood.
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Her behavior just baffles me.
It used to baffle me, too, and then I learned more about NPD. It fits her.
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What realities do you think she was able to see yesterday?
Mainly, the financial reality that she will most likely get shorter-term alimony than she wanted (unless she wants to take me to court), and that she will get a finite amount of money every month and when it's gone it's gone. Most of the responsibilities are going to move to her side of the ledger, and yes she'll get CS and alimony to cover them, but SHE will have to be responsible for living within her means. She's never been able to do that.
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If she is dating can't you at least use that to protect yourself from alimony? How can she even ask for that when she is potentially dating? Doesn't she feel guilty at all for what she has done? Doesn't adultery at the very least bar alimony in your state?
Florida is a "no-fault" state; you can't use adultery or ANY grounds as the basis for the divorce, other than that "the marriage is irretrievably broken." Child-support is also a non-negotiable formula (as it mainly should be). A judge MAY consider evidence of adultery in considering CUSTODY, but I'm not contesting the custody this time (I did when I filed for divorce two years ago, when she was having a full-blown affair).
I don't know if she feels guilty or not. I have nothing but circumstantial evidence about whether or not she's "dating," per se, and I really don't care anymore. Does she feel guilty? No, I don't believe she does, because in her mind our marriage is already over. I choose to draw my own moral line in a different place (when our divorce is final).
