I decided that instead of doing anything elaborate and unusual with my appearance, the most important thing I could do to be my most attractive self would just be to go to yoga class, which makes me calm and centered, so I went to yoga in nYC the night before our meeting and also again the morning before.
I wore one of my most awesome outfits ever: a green knit dress, empire waist, halter, with a keyhole back, a matching empire waist v-neck long sleeved tunic on top (since it was cold--and between the tunic and the dress my shoulders were very sexily revealed/concealed), black tights, and my pink fluff momma knee high three-inches-of-fluff-all-around sheepskin boots! And my sexy black embroidered coat that I posted a while back. So really really comfortable and sexy, one of my favorite everday outfits, but with stunning footwear!
I got to the restaurant (which was all vegetarian--a thoughtful choice on his part) and then waited inside. And he was... really late! At 5.20 (20 minutes after he was supposed to be there) he texted me two slightly different texts that he was late, he had overslept his alarm, and he would be there in five minutes. He showed up wet from the rain and wearing his new tortoiseshell glasses. He gave me a good hug and apologized and I told him it was OK-- and then we sat down!
He was genuinely remorseful about being late and I was genuinely not mad, just a little concerned maybe.
I had decided in advance that I wasn't going to talk about Longy School, etc unless he asked--because it was rude, repetitive, and unattractive for me to always be talking about my dilemmas. I had compiled a list of things I could ask him about since he had talked to me about them: his family, his youngest brother thinking about transfering to a different school, and his desire to play the viola in addition to the violin. That way I could show interest without asking questions that were potentially invasive.
As soon as we sat down, he told me he should probably be late to band practice, and get there at 7.30 instead of 7. I said, "So you're in a band?" And he explained that he had formed a bluegrass band with some other people, and at first they had a ton of concerts, and then not so many recently. I didn't want to ask a ton of questions because I was worried that Asian Girl (from his solo bluegrass performance in june) might be involved and I really didn't want to know about anything having to do with her. So i just listened.
I asked him about his trip out to california. It turned out that he had flown back into NYC at 5 am that morning, slept for a few hours, gone to an orchestra rehearsal, slept for a few more hours, and then overslept when he was supposed to meet me. I didn't say anything, but I was surprised that he was willing to meet me under those circumstances--if it was me, I probably would have just said, "I'm sorry, I'm not available" instead of squeezing him into a day when I felt completely busy and exhausted.
He told me excitedly about how he had gotten the gig in california--this church director that his brother performs with frequently mentioned they were playing B's favorite organ piece for easter service and B got so excited about it that the church director offered to fly him out and make him part of the concert. So B and his brother performed as soloists with this big orchestra--it sounded awesome!
