I have to say as a woman I admire all you have done to try and save your marriage. Because I wished upon anything for years my ex would even try just one thing to show me he loved me or cared about me. I thought maybe it was just a man thing. That they weren't into the reading books or doing things like that. But this site is inspiring to see how many men love their wife.
I am curious since her affair had the two of you been romantic or physical at all? Why do you think she tries so hard to want to feel beautiful or pretty? Has she ever gotten that validation from you? Could she maybe think you just don't want her? Are you aggressive in that sense? I am not saying or accusing I am just curious.
