Hi folks, I'm trying to discern how much that I'm feeling right now is my own sensitivity and how much is a reality I need to look at. My focus on this thread has been the struggle I've been having in my second year of separation. I find it much lonlier in that people who used to check in with me by calling etc don't anymore. I used to do a lot of stuff with my woman friend but since she's moved we don't even talk on the phone anymore. We used to talk weekly and see each other biweekly. I've called, left the odd message (and that's a sad attempt on my part!) but get no response...nothing for two months! I'll call again. My good friend at work has basically backed away from me due to my church involvement. He don't go and he don't wanna hear about it! Apparently talking about your activities at church, (and I'm not witnessing or being obnoxious in any way) is equivalent to sharing how your night with a hooker went! He spends his time hanging out with the Atheists now. My best friend hasn't answered an email in a couple of weeks. He's probably working his butt off and just forgets. My Pastors don't inquire about me anymore, even after meeting STBX neither followed up to say "Hey, it was great to meet your whole family" although both knew how much it meant for me to have my whole family at the Easter service. In fact, the odd email I send usually gets no response. Now, I know I'm not being demanding, that's for sure, and I also know Pastor's have a job from Hell but we're talking one lousy comment or short email reply here! I'd also met about a month ago with the Youth Pastor to discuss how we could get my kids involved in Youth evenings (which they don't want to go to) and she told me she'd call my girls and take them out for an ice tea and chat and never has, in fact, she hasn't spoken to me since! Oh, and I also have a friend who lives in the same apartment building and I invited her to come to a church group we were having, as she enjoys meeting people and is a devout Christian. When I called to verify whether she could come (she'd said she would) she never returned my phone call! A week and a half later I ran into her and she said "sorry, I was too busy to get back to you" In a week and a half? OK, I know people are busy, they have lives, they don't mean to be hurtful in any way but when STBX seems to be the most reliable person in my life something is friggin' wrong! Am I just too sensitive here? I know people will let you down, even people who have been there for you before still do it. It's life, I guess. It just kind of gets me down when I feel so many people are just not being thoughtful at the same time! Hey, I'm sure I let people down too...so I dunno. Sometimes I wonder whether I should just say to people "Hey, I'd really appreciate it if..." as opposed to just leaving these things. Just venting, I guess. This too shall pass. Maybe I'm just being oversensitive to life...who knows. Why do I feel like a dink by even posting this? I don't like saying "I'm vulnerable" yukkkk!
but we're talking one lousy comment or short email reply here! I'd also met about a month ago with the Youth Pastor to discuss how we could get my kids involved in Youth evenings (which they don't want to go to) and she told me she'd call my girls and take them out for an ice tea and chat and never has, in fact, she hasn't spoken to me since! Oh, and I also have a friend who lives in the same apartment building and I invited her to come to a church group we were having, as she enjoys meeting people and is a devout Christian. When I called to verify whether she could come (she'd said she would) she never returned my phone call! A week and a half later I ran into her and she said "sorry, I was too busy to get back to you" In a week and a half? 
I don't like saying "I'm vulnerable" yukkkk! 
