That sure is tough and you did fine in my opinion to not make it a bigger issue than it was. It is obvious that every child holds on to the hope that their parents will get back together. As I write this, I realize that the hurt my daughter has experienced is the only issue that gets me riled up. You are doing great BBJ. There is no road map for what you are living. It sounds like you are doing great with the no phone calls etc. On the other hand you are still struggling with some other stuff. Like the party and the gift. It is not easy to detach. It is difficult to put myself in your shoes but I do not think I would have thought twice about getting my own gift and I would definately not have my W's family over at my house for any occasion. But that is my take.....my sitch. I would let my W plan her own stuff on her own side. Putting his belongings in a box and hosting a party for his side of the family at your house just does not jive in my mind....but as usual I may be missing something.
