I haven't heard of N.U.T.S. before. How is it compared to NMMNG?
As far as the "as if", I should definitely practice that more/better. Our parallels are close enough that I'll be curious to see how it works out for either of us.
I'm also struggling trying to figure out what boundaries I should set since she doesn't really treat me badly to my face but she tells others she thinks of me as a wounded dog. I get caught up in hearing such comments and react poorly (fail to maintain PMA or As If) the next time I'm around her. On one hand, I should reject hearing about her opinions to friends to maintain my PMA (and delusion, perhaps), and on the other hand it helps me to understand her primary concerns with me -- which she is lousy about communicating to me directly, as if it is old information being rehashed.
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open and honest about my feelings and owning them even if W doesn't agree with them or gets upset because of them
